Tutor language for kids. Superman or not? 在家教語言 : 偶而忘記當超人父母,讓孩子學習獨立自主

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【在家教語言 :
偶而忘記當超人父母,讓孩子學習獨立自主】

現代的父母十分難為,面對資資訊快速變化的新時代,常常必須文武雙全,動靜皆宜。

一會兒是孩子的心靈導師,一下子要變成孩子的保鑣;白天在職場上努力奮鬥,晚上又是溫柔體貼的新手父母,就像超人一般,隨時待命。

在語言發展的角度上,我們樂意見到超人母出現直到孩子約一歲半左右,當孩子嘗試者使用簡單的單詞或單字溝通表達的時候,身為新手父母們就要偶而忘記超人父母的全能身分。

孩子從出生開始,就學著與外界溝通,表情達意。孩子在4個月大以前,父母們大多是藉由孩子的哭聲或是表情來判斷孩子想要表達什麼,所以這時期的父母幾乎像是超人一樣,隨時待命,有練就一身準確猜測的功力。

漸漸的孩子到了八個月大,孩子開始學習嘗試發出許多不同的聲音,在這樣發出聲音的過程中,超人父母必須要多多鼓勵孩子,並且努力的將孩子所發出的聲音意義化,也就是說孩子在一個偶然的情境中對著爸爸發出/bubu/聲音,這時候爸爸就應該鼓勵的說/爸爸,你在叫我爸爸,好棒/;不過媽媽也不必要吃醋,如果是相同的情境媽媽出現了,孩子發出/bubu/的聲音,媽媽就可以鼓勵孩子說/抱抱,你要抱抱/就立刻給孩子一個大的抱抱。

這樣的猜測活動到了孩子一歲左右,就會希望全能的父母慢慢的忘記這樣一個隨傳隨到或是,孩子只要一個表情或眼神,甚至伸出雙手,就可以得到他/她想要的東西—這樣的溝通模式應該要改變。

超人父母們可以先從簡單的活動開始;當一歲左右的孩子習慣先用手指著他要的糖果,父母這時候不一定要立刻滿足孩子的心願,可以試著說”糖糖,拿糖糖,吃糖糖”,年紀再大一點的時候,可以將句型改為”糖果,拿糖果”。

當孩子到了二歲或是更大的年紀,我們樂於見到父母不用去猜測孩子心意,或是不再百分之百和孩子心靈相通(孩子開口之前父母就知道),因為孩子必須要自己試著使用語言來表達需求。

父母可以這樣做:當孩子習慣用手指糖果罐說”糖果”的時候,父母可以假裝不知道或是聽錯了,拿出果汁或是其他物品,讓孩子做選擇並且加上口語“你要糖果?還是你要牛奶”,然示範答案“我要糖果,不要果汁”,讓孩子多一些機會去學習使用句型做出溝通表達,同時也讓孩子多一些機會學習獨立自主—這樣,超人父母們終於可以暫時休息一下,陪孩子面對下一個階段的成長。
“In the tutor language: I forgot when Superman’s parents, let the children be independent”

Modern parents very hard on, in the face of Chinese information rapidly changing new era, must often be consumer, fitting for both activities.

Is the child’s spiritual teacher, wants to become a child’s bodyguard; workplace hard during the day, night and affectionate new parents, like Superman, always on.

In terms of language development, we would like to see appear superhuman parent until the child is about a year and a half or so, when a child is trying to communicate using simple words or words to express, being new parents will occasionally forget Superman’s parents, the Almighty status. Children from birth, learned to communicate with the outside world, projection.

Children under 4 months ago, many parents are achieved through baby’s crying or expressions to determine what children want to express, so it’s almost like Superman’s parents, standing, skill in accurately guessing skill. Gradually of children to has eight months big, children began learning tries to issued many different of sound, in such issued sound of process in the, Superman parents must to more encourages children, and efforts of will children by issued of sound meaning of, that is children in a accidentally of situational in the on with dad issued/Bubu/sound, now Dad on should encourages of said/dad, you in called I dad, good Rod/; but MOM also without to jealous, if is same of situational MOM appeared has, children issued/Bubu/

Voice, mother can encourage children to speak/to hold you hug/give kids a big hug.

Such speculation activities children around the age of one, you’ll wish all parents slowly forget one call or, kids just want a face or eyes, outstretched hands, you can get what he/she wants—such a mode of communication should be changed.

Superman’s parents could start from a simple event; when a child around the age used to finger him for candy, parents do not have to immediately meet the child’s wishes, you can try to say “sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar”, age, and then a little time, sentence patterns can be changed to “candy candy”.

When a child to the age of two years or more, we are delighted to see their parents do not have to guess the child, 100% or no longer connected with the kids (child parents knew before opening) because they have to try to use their own language to express their needs. Parents can such do: Dang children habits with finger candy tank said “candy” of when, parents can pretending to not knows or listening wrong has, took out juice or other items, let children do select and plus oral “you to candy? also is you to milk”, so model answers “I to candy, not juice”, let children more some opportunities to learning using sentence made communication expression, while also let children more some opportunities learning independence—such, Superman parents were finally can temporarily resting about, With the children face the next stage of growth. (Translated by Bing)

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